The Controlling Pattern

Controllers are usually too self- sufficient

to ask for help when they need it,

too proud to say they are sorry,

too competitive to be intimate

and too self-centered

to listen to others' need.

SYMPTOMS

They believe that there is only one way to do things,

their way.

Their need for perfection interferes with their ability to

grasp the bigger picture.

They are formal in manner, stiff in carriage

and proper in conversation.

They are stingy but like to

appear generous.

They usually opt for the dominant role

in their families.

Their consuming need is to give a good impression

and to be in control at all times.

They pooh-pooh feelings and consider introspection

to be self-indulgent.

They secretly strive for recognition and

admiration.

They serve God through a demonstration

of moral perfection and the on going

correction of others.

Their fundamental attitude is, " Strive at all times

demonstrate your strength and superiority."

Let me end this by saying that most of the controllers

are analytical thinkers who repress their emotions,

bodily sensation and spiritual sensitivity.

-DR. DAN MONTGOMERY